The first episode of friends aired 20 years ago today on September 22th, 1994
It’s like all of my life everybody has always told me “You’re a shoe! You’re a shoe, you’re a shoe, you’re a shoe!” And then today I just stopped and I said “What if I don’t wanna be a shoe? What if I wanna be a purse? You know? Or a hat?”
(Source: izzyswood, via heisenerg)
When the historians look back on our generation they will be like, “They had a lot of brunch.”
23. Wondering aloud to anyone who will listen when “adulthood” is going to kick in
Is there ever a point in which we are going to feel grown? Because, we still feel like we are kids trapped in older people’s bodies.
"So the right wing manipulates the resentment of the bulk of the working class from being able to dedicate their lives to anything purely noble or altruistic. But at the same time—and here’s the real evil genius of right-wing populism—they also manipulate the resentment of that portion of the middle classes trapped in bullshit jobs against the bulk of the working classes, who at least get to do productive work of obvious social benefit. Think about all the popular uproar about school teachers. There’s this endless campaign of vilification against teachers, who they say are overpaid, coddled, and are blamed for everything wrong with our education system. In fact, grade school teachers undergo really grueling conditions for much less money than they’d be paid if they’d gone into almost any other profession requiring the same level of education, and almost all the problems the right-wingers are referring to aren’t created by the teachers or teachers’ unions at all but by school administrators—the ones who are paid much more, and mostly have classic bullshit jobs that seem to multiply endlessly even as the teachers themselves are squeezed and downsized. So why does no one complain about those guys? Actually I saw something telling written by a right-wing activist on some blog—he said, well the funny thing is, when we first started our school reform campaigns, we tried to focus on the administrators. But it didn’t take. Then we shifted to the teachers and suddenly the whole thing exploded. It’s hard to explain that in any other way than to say: a lot of people resent the teachers for having genuine, meaningful jobs. You get to shape young lives. You get to make a real difference for other people. And the logic seems to be: shouldn’t that be enough for them? They want that, and middle-class salaries, and job security, and vacations, and benefits, too? You even see that with auto workers. “But you get to make cars! That’s a real job! And you also want $30 an hour?” It’s an imperfect strategy. The anti-intellectualism for instance works on many sections of the white working class, but it doesn’t work nearly so well on immigrants or African-Americans. The resentment against those who get to do meaningful labor exists alongside a resentment for having to do meaningless labor to begin with. It’s an unstable mix. But we have to recognize that in countries like the US, it’s been pretty effective."
A same-sex couple moves from a state with same-sex marriage, to Texas.
The emotional toll this must have taken… I can’t imagine it. The description of what is like to live in a small conservative town is heartbreaking. No holding hands anymore, people making gestures when you do harmless PDA.
The heart of the matter, why I want to get married, is right here:
And so, after Marta and I got married, something in my thinking about marriage—and about us—shifted. The “we” that made up Marta and me felt stronger and less breakable. Suddenly, we were official. We were two people who would be recognized as legally bound, as kin, even, by city administrators, insurance collectors, and hospital employees.
I empathize pretty hard for folks in the US. And also, I am very very happy and grateful to be Canadian.